In their own words

I can’t say enough good things about Heather. I was married to a narcissistic sociopath for almost 26 years. A year and 4 months after the divorce was final, my daughter passed away. My ex wife had said it was my fault, that I had caused my daughter to use drugs and overdose. My daughter had been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder. I remarried 3 months before she passed away. With that and some underlying issues I didn’t realize I had from my previous marriage. Heather was able to see it, and with the counseling, and talking to my wife. Identified the issues, and helped us make a plan to help overcome the issues I was carrying over to my new marriage. Heather was also able to help with my issues with my daughter. I had an enormous amount of guilt, and grief I wasn’t able to process yet, because of my ex wife. I can say I am moving in the right direction now, with Heathers help. I can’t thank Heather enough for her help, support, and kindness.

Working with Heather was truly life-changing for me. I sought help after a very traumatic experience with a narcissistic partner of 9 years. I had seen traditional counselors and did not feel I was making much progress. I was overwhelmed and unsure where to turn as no one seemed to understand what I had experienced. Heather met me with true empathy, patience, and genuine care that I immediately felt safe opening up. Her personal experience with narcissism coupled with her vast knowledge of this complex subject matter was evident from the start. Her approach is thoughtful and empowering. As a NLP rather than just talking about problems, she gave me practical tools and techniques that helped me shift how my mind and body responded to stress and memories. I could feel real progress within a few sessions. I am so grateful for finding Heather. I now feel lighter, more confident, and better equipped to handle life’s challenges beyond the narcissist. I would highly recommend booking a session with her so you can too experience her gentle nature and begin your healing journey. She is a highly skilled NLP with the personal experience to genuinely understand and meet you where you are. So if you are where I was, desperate and feeling like you have no where to go, please don’t give up-there is hope. Reach out to Healing Self Compass and get help to reclaim your serenity and your get life back.

Working with Heather has been life changing for me. She has a gift for helping me tune into my instincts and stop the constant second guessing that has held me back for years. One of the things I appreciate most is how open and supportive she is.I can reach out by call or text when challenges arise, and she always responds with guidance that is both compassionate and incredibly wise. I had prayed for someone ethical, knowledgeable, and truly aware someone who could understand the complexities of dealing with narcissistic behaviors in relationships, whether family, friendships, work, or romantic and Heather has been exactly that answer to prayer. Her advice has been spot on and has given me the clarity and confidence to handle situations in healthier ways. What makes her stand out is how deeply she invests in getting to the root of who you are and why you may carry certain patterns, while also helping you take honest self reflection on your own role in your healing journey. If you are genuinely ready to heal and become a stronger, healthier version of yourself, I cannot recommend Heather enough. She is the kind of coach who doesn’t just guide you; she walks with you every step of the way.

I found Heather through Healing Self Compass when I was in one of the darkest periods of my life. I had come across her on TikTok explaining narcissism and narcissistic relationships, and for the first time, what I was experiencing had a name. The confusion, self-doubt, emotional whiplash, and constant questioning of myself suddenly began to make sense. I reached out to Heather and asked if she could help. She still remembers that first conversation clearly. I was sitting in a dark room, crying, and she could barely see anything except my eyes. I was deeply depressed, completely lost, and struggling to understand how I had gotten there.

I used to tell Heather she was like an eagle flying above the forest while I was stuck down inside it, unable to see beyond the trees. She could see patterns and dynamics that were impossible for me to recognize while I was living inside them. She helped me understand why I could know someone was hurting me and still feel that the only person who could make the pain stop was that same person, with a hug, an apology, or the words “I love you,” only for the cycle to begin again. When I broke no-contact or reached back toward the person who had hurt me, Heather never shamed me. She helped me understand why it happened, regain my footing, and keep moving forward.

She also helped me understand something much deeper about myself. As a highly empathetic person, I had spent years believing that if someone was hurting, struggling, or carrying deep pain, perhaps I could love them enough to help heal it. Looking back, I could see that pattern across several painful relationships. Heather helped me connect it to earlier family dynamics and beliefs I had carried for years without realizing it. She taught me that compassion does not require self-sacrifice, that empathy does not mean emptying yourself for someone else, and that I could care deeply without making another person’s healing my responsibility. That changed not only how I viewed relationships, but how I viewed myself.

What makes Heather so effective is how human she is. She is open about her own experiences when appropriate, and because she has lived through a narcissistic relationship herself, she understands this kind of pain firsthand. For a year, she was there for me every week, sometimes more when I needed her. I never felt like I was receiving a cold or clinical response. I felt heard, understood, challenged when I needed it, and supported by someone who was genuinely on my team.

The transformation in my life is difficult to overstate. I went from sitting alone in a dark room, crying and unable to imagine a way forward, to traveling the world, rebuilding my confidence, trusting my own judgment again, and living with a level of emotional clarity and freedom I did not have when I first called her. Heather helped me understand what had happened to me, but more importantly, she helped me understand myself well enough that I no longer feel compelled to repeat the same patterns.

If someone is questioning their reality, losing themselves inside a painful relationship, or trying to understand narcissistic abuse and wondering whether they will ever feel like themselves again, I would recommend Heather and Healing Self Compass without hesitation. Her kindness, wisdom, honesty, and lived understanding made a profound difference in my life, and I will always be grateful for that.

Working with Heather came at a time when I had completely lost myself. I was trying to make sense of an incredibly painful relationship and discard, questioning my own experiences, blaming myself, and struggling to recognize the person I had been before everything happened.

From the very beginning, Heather created a space where I felt genuinely heard, understood, and supported. Our sessions never felt impersonal or like I was simply another appointment on a calendar. Heather took the time to really get to know me, my story, and what I needed at different points throughout my healing. She knew when I needed reassurance, but she also knew when I needed to be challenged and encouraged to look at something differently.

One of the things I appreciated most was how available and flexible Heather was throughout our work together. With a demanding and sometimes unpredictable work schedule, she was always willing to work with me to find a time that fit. Knowing that I could reach out by text or talk when I needed additional support made an enormous difference, particularly during some of the hardest moments early in my healing. That level of accessibility and personal connection made our work together feel incredibly genuine.

Through our sessions, Heather helped me turn the focus away from trying to understand someone else and back toward understanding myself. We worked on boundaries, self-trust, what healthy love actually looks like, finding my voice, and ultimately answering a much bigger question: Who am I outside of what happened to me?

Fifteen months later, I can genuinely say that I am a different person. I trust myself again. I know what I deserve. I have learned that I can care deeply about another person without abandoning myself in the process. I can recognize unhealthy patterns without believing it is my responsibility to fix them. And perhaps most importantly, I love myself again.

Heather helped me understand that healing wasn’t about getting the answers or closure I thought I needed from someone else. It was about finding those things within myself. Today, I can look back at what happened with clarity and even compassion while understanding that another person’s struggles are no longer mine to carry.

Heather has been such an important part of this chapter of my life. She challenged me, encouraged me, celebrated my progress, and helped me rediscover a strength and confidence in myself that I genuinely thought I had lost. I came to Heather wanting to understand what had happened to me. I’m leaving this chapter understanding who I am. For the first time in a long time, I’m not looking backward wondering what could have been. I’m excited about what comes next.

Heather has a way of being direct while still making you feel understood and supported. She listens closely, asks thoughtful questions, and helps you look at things you may have been explaining away for a long time. I never felt that I needed to have the right words or tell my story perfectly.

What I appreciated most was the balance between compassion and honesty. She gave me room to talk, but she also challenged me to think about my own needs, choices, and boundaries. Sometimes a question she asked stayed with me long after our conversation because it helped me see something from a different perspective.

I initially came to Healing Self Compass wanting to understand a difficult relationship. Our conversations also helped me consider what I wanted for myself and where I had become accustomed to putting everyone else first. Heather’s encouragement felt grounded in what we were actually discussing, and I appreciated having practical things to reflect on between sessions.

I would strongly recommend Heather and Healing Self Compass to anyone looking for compassionate, straightforward coaching while navigating harmful relationship patterns or rebuilding trust in themselves. If you value someone who will listen with care, speak honestly, and support you in finding your own direction, Heather is someone I would wholeheartedly recommend.

Reaching out to Healing Self Compass was a big step for me, and I’m glad I did. From the beginning, communication was easy. I felt comfortable asking questions, and the team made getting started feel much less intimidating than I had expected.

Heather is warm and easy to talk to, but she’s also direct, which I really appreciated. She asks questions that make you stop and think. I could be honest about feeling confused, missing someone who had hurt me, or struggling with a boundary without feeling embarrassed or judged.

I didn’t always know how to explain what I was feeling. Sometimes I would talk in circles, and Heather helped me slow down and sort through it. I appreciated being able to explore my options without feeling pushed toward a decision.

We also talked through everyday situations—what I could say, what was within my control, and what a realistic next step might look like. When something was harder than I expected, I felt comfortable bringing it up again.

I strongly recommend Heather and the team at Healing Self Compass. If you’re looking for support that is caring, honest, and practical, HSC is worth reaching out to. I’m grateful I took that first step.

As a woman who had been in an abusive relationship with another woman, I was nervous about reaching out for support. I worried that I would have to explain or defend my relationship before we could even talk about what had happened.

With Heather, I felt comfortable talking about both the abuse and the parts of my experience connected to being LGBTQ+. I could talk about loving her, missing her, and still knowing that certain things weren’t okay. I didn’t feel judged for having those conflicting feelings.

Some of the hardest things to explain were the shared friendships and the fear of losing people who mattered to me. Heather gave those concerns room in our conversations while helping me consider my own needs, boundaries, and choices.

Communicating with Healing Self Compass was easy and welcoming. The team made getting started feel manageable, and I felt comfortable asking questions along the way.

I strongly recommend Heather and HSC to other LGBTQ+ women looking for compassionate, direct support around an abusive relationship. Being able to speak openly about my experience without minimizing it or explaining away the harm meant a great deal to me.

As parents of a neurodivergent child, we needed help understanding what was happening and figuring out where to turn. We had questions, concerns, and several moving pieces that felt overwhelming to manage on our own.

Heather brought a depth of knowledge to our conversations and explained things in ways we could understand and apply at home. She helped us think more carefully about our child’s needs, our responses, and what support might be useful for our family. We felt heard, and our child was treated as an individual.

We especially appreciated Heather’s follow-through. When additional support was needed, she helped identify outside providers, facilitated connections, and coordinated next steps with our permission. Having her help us navigate that process took some of the pressure off.

Communicating with Healing Self Compass was easy and welcoming. We felt comfortable asking questions, talking about difficult days, and coming back to something we hadn’t quite figured out.

We’re grateful to Heather and HSC for helping restore a sense of direction and peace to our family. We still have challenges, but we feel better equipped to approach them together. We strongly recommend HSC to parents looking for knowledgeable, compassionate, and practical support.